A wise woman once said “if your dreams don’t scare you, you’re not dreaming big enough.” If there’s something you know you need to do to get to the next level in your life but you’re scared to get out of your comfort zone to go for it, this episode will give you the strategies to get out of your own way and just Go For It! Watch as I share my simple and proven strategies to developing a habit of stepping outside of my comfort zone with confidence.
In remembrance of the September 11th attacks, and it being the 15th year anniversary; I can no doubt say that this day was the most emotional day in American history. I originally come from London, UK—but I did live in America for a vital part of my childhood—I went to school, experienced the culture and ideally got very used to the lifestyle.
Whatever it may be. A new job. Moving away. Studying. Re-studying. Purchasing those FABULOUS new heels. Whatever it is, don’t worry. It’s NEVER TOO LATE TO START SOMETHING NEW. Try not to look for the things that could go wrong. Start looking for the things that could go beautifully right!
Through all of the trials and tribulations that you have experienced in life thus far, have you ever sat down in your quiet time and questioned why you went through them? Or even better yet, how you were able to get through? You need to be encouraged today that all of the hardships that you were in were not just for you, but you went through them so you have enough experience for whoever you were meant to become in your present life.
When I mention ‘The Have and Have Not’s I’m not making reference to the hit show. I’m speaking more on the toxic world that social media can become when you focus on the ‘Explore’ option on Instagram and compare your life to others. It is such a damaging thing and can really knock your confidence.
What keeps you motivated when you wake up in the morning? There is a great possibility that in this life that we live in, we can easily lose motivation in the very things that we love—due to the many challenges we face along the way. I can compare life to a roller coaster—it has its ups, downs, twists and turns, but at the end of the roller coaster everything comes to a stand still.
There is a saying that the graveyard is the richest place on earth because there you will find the world’s greatest treasures; unwritten books, unsung songs and phenomenal ideas all buried with those who weren’t brave enough to give their gifts while they were alive. It is this sobering thought that keeps me motivated to share my gifts in whatever way I can. I have found this practice to be very rewarding which lead me to writing this article about how giving is the secret sauce to living a rich life. Today I yearn for it out of lack. As our lives become richer by giving we learn how to receive. It is a simple concept but many of us do not know how to receive and that is because we often see ourselves as not having any value. But, as we take the quantum leap and live by giving we debunk our feelings of unworthiness and begin to feel worthy of the great gifts we receive in return for our kindness. Click here to accept your gifts from me.
How do you love yourself? That was a question posed to me recently. It was a question I had to think long and hard about.
Before I answered, I had to break it down into – How can I love myself?
There’s a saying which is ‘Look after yourself before you look after others’. At first glance you would think it’s quite a selfish quote but when you read it again, it will make sense. Looking after others will require a lot from you and if you aren’t well yourself, it could end in disaster. Self love and self validation is vital for your overall development and personal growth. Do not allow yourself to be afraid of putting yourself first or showering yourself with love abundantly. The biggest and most powerful relationship you will ever have with regard to love is the one you forge with yourself.
There are a number of ways that you can begin to truly honour and love yourself completely; here are a few.
Take a break
In life, you will get involved in numerous things at one time and may struggle to find time for yourself. This may result in you becoming rundown and drained and could later lead to your becoming depressed. No matter how focused you’re on a goal take the time to that you find you have no time for yourself. This results in being rundown, tired and soon or later turn into depression. From time to time, take a break, go on a spa retreat, rest yourself both mentally and physically and focus on restoring balance.
Cut off toxic people
You will find that there are people who will drain you of all your energy and demand time from you. As difficult as it may be, you need to focus your attentions on limiting your interactions with these people. This will be a touchy subject for many as those who can drag you down are often friends and family, however; you have to work on limiting your time with them to protect you inner peace. Progressive individuals surround themselves with successful individuals who they can learn and develop from. In order to ascend to high heights you need to surround yourself with cheerleaders who will encourage and empower you to become your best self.
Live a healthier lifestyle
With life being so fast paced it can be difficult to implement a healthier way of living. However, the key tips are to implement little steps and go from there. It may be something as simple as drinking more water, taking the stairs instead of the lift, trying out herbal teas or learning how to make smoothies; the list is endless. The key is to work at your own pace; not to allow others outside of yourself to influence or deflate you. Taking care of your mental and physical needs is a strong signification for loving yourself and working on improving your day to day lifestyle.
Now and again, it is good to treat yourself. This could mean from buying new clothes to watching the latest movie at the cinema. Going on a shopping spree or simply having a night out with friends. Treat yourself, make yourself feel special. You don’t have to break bank to reward yourself from time to time.
Focus on yourself and your life
Too often we have the tendency to want to help everyone around us and take on their problems but in reality we simply can’t do that all the time if we want to grow and develop. It’s not wrong to want to focus on yourself for a while, get yourself back to full fitness, regain your happiness and most of all to centre your thoughts. You have to take care of number one sometimes and this may have to sometimes involve you focusing primarily on yourself.
Listen to your body
Rushing around can eventually cause us to slow down and then stop. It’s good to get things done but there’s also a need to calm down the pace and allow yourself time to take things easy from time to time. Listen to your body because if the truth be told, no-one knows your body better than you. Let me put it like this; picture a car travelling at a fast speed, it fails to spot the red light ahead and then crashes. Instant write off. That can easily become us when we ignore the warning signs. We too can crash and burn. In order to prevent a burn out, press the pause button and do activities that will not only calm your body but also your mind.
When I think of love, I think of it as an action word. Loving yourself is the most important thing you should do, because let’s face it – if you can’t love yourself, who else will?
There will come a time when loving yourself becomes hard but it can get easier when you begin to value yourself and see yourself how God sees you. Ask yourself if you spend time doing what you love, Ask yourself if you have time for yourself
Loving others can be very hard but becomes that more easier and fluid when we first love ourselves.
I pray this blesses you and helps you to start that journey of self love.
W| By Ryan Osborne @Ryan_Ozzie