Coping with life involves learning how to close the doors on the past. It is important, but difficult to do when you lose one you love through breakup or death. Think about closing a door. If you slam it shut in anger, it will likely bounce open on you. If you lean against it, or nudge it, it will move, but won’t close or stay closed. Closing it involves applying firm, gentle consistent pressure until it is shut firm.
It can be easy to become influenced by voices that don’t get what you’re trying to do. People who don’t approve of you or your work, will always try to discourage you. Once you make your mark, you’ll attract erasers. People who are intimidated by your prime will always try to shorten it. Maybe there are people who drain your energy by constantly demanding you to justify the choices you make, to explain yourself to them so that they can argue with you.